What life events shaped me into the person I am today.

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Hey everyone, hope you're doing well. I've had a hard time lately finding motivation and inspiration for my blog and that makes me very sad. But, as many of my lovely blogger friends have said, it happens, and it'll come back to me. With that in mind, I thought I'd do some research and find inspiration because it's not always something that magically comes to you. I know that I mainly blog about well-being on my blog, but I also have a bit of a mixture and talk about some fab food that I've tried (Loretta's cookies), and some more informative posts about special occasions (what is the history of Valentine's Day). I think for me I find inspiration and then proceed to write about whatever that subject may be, what do you guys do for coming up with blog post ideas?

I have spent the whole morning (it's now 12 - time for lunch me thinks!) reading others blog posts and it's been a lovely morning, and also inspiring as I mentioned in my lack of inspiration post that a good way to find inspiration with writing blog posts is reading other bloggers posts - of course, not copying word for word, but just getting a few ideas and themes! Anyway, for this post I wanted to write about what life events shaped me into the person I am today. I was thinking about what kind of post I felt like writing, and I wanted to write something a bit more personal for today. I always find that when I write personal posts I find it more therapeutic, because I feel like it gets me thinking more about my life and what things I have overcome to get to where I am today.

(Related post: 12 lessons in 12 months).




What life events shaped me into the person I am today? 

#1 The loved ones around me have been/still are, encouraging and allow me to be me. I've been fortunate enough that growing up no one has stopped me from doing what I want to do in life. I picked what secondary school I wanted to go to, I picked what A Levels I wanted to do, I picked what University I wanted to go to and what course I wanted to study. Even when I had a hard time when I first went to University and wanted to leave, that was all my decision, I left because I wanted to, and same with going back to University, I went back because I wanted to. I moved out of my family home in 2018 to move to Birmingham with my boyfriend and everyone was supportive of that. I know to some this might sound strange, you might think, surely it's pretty normal to make your own decisions for all of these things? However, there's many people out there that are less fortunate, may it be that a parent might want you to get into a certain career so push you towards a certain degree. So, with that in mind, I know how lucky I am in that aspect and I appreciate all the love, support and encouragement through all of that.


 - Also my friends that I have had around me, and still do. Growing up through school I had a small group of friends in my Primary school and a big group of friends in my Secondary school and I have created some lovely memories that are unforgettable. Even though I don't speak/see some of the friends I had at school now, I still cherish the memories and I am thankful that they helped me have a good experience at school. Also, my uni friends, again I don't see them all but I'm glad that I met them and created some funny moments that I can always think back on, and I'm grateful that I have kept in contact with a few of my uni friends also. When we're kids, the thought of not seeing your friends all the time would make us think that we're not good friends, but I've learnt growing up that even if you don't get to see your friends as often as you would like, you still know that when you do get to meet up that nothing has changed between you all. I'm also grateful to the friends in my hometown that I still catch up with every so often, they are also supportive, caring and the best, and of course, help to shape me into the person I am today!


#2 The whole university experience. As I've discussed before on my blog (anxiety at university), I struggled a lot at uni. I went for a week and then left because my anxiety was so bad, but I soon realised that it's something that I really wanted to do and I didn't want my anxiety to get in the way of that. So, I went back and of course, going back with that mindset it's not like I just lost all of my anxiety and went through university all fine and dandy. It was tough, my first year of uni was really difficult, I had many panic attacks and I barely went into the communal kitchen. Luckily I made some amazing friends, and met my lovely boyfriend, so by the end of first year and going into second year I felt more relaxed. For anyone going off to uni it's a difficult decision and of course, going from school to uni is a massive difference. You go from living at home, having dinners cooked for you, your washing done by your parents, all the things that parents do for their kids growing up, then you go off to uni and you do all that by yourself, you pay bills, you've gone from not much responsibility to pretty much everything being your responsibility.


#3 The struggle with my anxiety. I've struggled with anxiety all my life and because of that, of course it's had some affect on the person I am today. I've had times where anxiety has stopped me from doing things - uni, events, giving up on opportunities, hobbies etc. There's so many things in my life that I've said 'no' to because I felt too anxious. However, that said there's things that have helped me and things that I have said 'yes' to that a once in a lifetime moments.

 - Back in 2013 I made the decision to go to Cambodia to help with a few villages, teach kids, and help re-build a school. I was 18 at the time and I had never done anything like it. I hadn't been abroad without my parents before and now I was going to fly for 13 hours without my family to a place I had never been before. I went with an expedition company with a few people from my school and my thought was if I could do that, I could definitely go to university. The morning that I had to get to the airport I left my parents at school where I got a coach to the airport - it was very early in the morning, but I felt so sick, probably down to being tired and also incredibly anxious. But, nevertheless, I did it. I had an amazing time, it was an experience I'll never forget and I'm so glad I said 'yes.' The experience taught me that I should grab the opportunities that come by, even if I know I'll be anxious, it'll be worthwhile if I take it, and it'll be life experiences that I'll never ever forget and always cherish.


#4 I couldn't not mention my blog in this post! Of course, starting my blog is a massive event that happened in my life that I am so grateful for. I'd started a blog back in 2013 that I dedicated to my travels in Cambodia, and after it turned into Chloe Chats - just a chatty blog that I did for fun. But, in 2018 at the beginning of the year, I re-started, and kept Chloe Chats but it turned into a mental health and well-being blog. I decided to write about 'my story' and everything that I had learnt about anxiety, and what amazing things had been helping me. As mentioned before in my post How blogging has helped my mental health, talking about what I was going through really helped me. From December 2017 through to April 2018 I struggled a lot with my mental health, I made myself physically ill because of it, and I knew I had to do something about it, and blogging was something that kept me going, helped me feel like I had a purpose, gave me a platform to be able to write down what was on my mind and how I could overcome it.

 - Along with having my blog and being able to write about things that are on my mind, I have also met the most amazing blogging community. If I could mention you all I would but I would be writing pages and pages of names, but everyone is so lovely, supportive, encouraging, welcoming, willing to listen, and will always be there if you're feeling down. I feel like I have met some amazing online friends and I am so grateful. ♡ 

I hope you found this post interesting, I really enjoyed writing it. Of course, I could probably list loads more life experiences but I've kept it at those that I have felt have been the biggest life events that have helped shame me into the person I am today. Let me know in the comments below something that has helped shape you into the person you are today! 





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  1. This was so interesting, especially the uni part as my youngest is off to uni in sept. But anxiety affects her too. It will spur her on knowing others have felt the same x

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    1. I hope she enjoys uni, it's definitely a great achievement and I'm sure she'll love it! xx

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  2. It's always good to be able to look back and see how our lives are signposted by different events. Going to Cambodia must've been awesome.

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    1. Definitely! It was such an amazing trip, something I'll never forget! xx

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  3. To be honest, I've had quite a lot of people try to stop me from what I've wanted to do in my life and when I was younger, at times they succeeded. I'm thankful that I now have the backbone to not yearn for anyones approval or ask for their opinion on my own life. You're super lucky that you have such a great support network! ☺️ I can definitely relate with the anxiety, I've also missed out on a lot of things due to saying no but I think when you do step outside of your comfort zone and succeed despite your anxiety, it's SUCH an incredible feeling and makes you so proud of yourself! ❤️
    Alice Xx

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    1. I'm glad you're now at the stage where you've got no one holding you back, it's so important to follow our own dreams and not someone else's! You're definitely right, when you step outside of your comfort zone it's such an amazing feeling <3 xx

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  4. Loved reading about your past and don't what made you be you today! you have overcome so many things and you should be proud of it so we! Let me just say that baby picture of you is so adorable. oh my God, I feel like uni changes everyone's lives drastically! I will never ever be the same after coming out and I've learned many things. Thank you for sharing Chloe! :-)

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    1. Thank you so much! aww haha thank you, it's me and my brother, I thought I'd add it in hehe. I feel the exact same, uni is such an experience! xx

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  5. This is a lovely idea for a post, Chloe! I hope you're finding a bit more inspiration and getting your mojo back because I love reading your posts <3 This one has definitely got me thinking about the things that have made me who I am today. Anxiety and my blog would feature heavily on my list too!

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

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    1. Ahh thank you Jenny, glad you liked it! I feel like I am slowly getting inspiration back, I really enjoyed writing this post. I feel like it's such a good reflection idea and it's nice to look back at our life and the things we've experienced <3 xx

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  6. Thank you for sharing this, and I love how you mentioned your anxiety and blog in this. Difficult experiences often shape us into the people we are or the people we will be in the future. The fact your blog has given you an outlet for your anxiety is wonderful.

    I give full responsibility to my blog for helping me through this difficult period in my life, and I know when I am fully recovered that I will be shaped and moulded by what writing has taught me.

    Keep on sharing your story with the world!

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    1. Thank you <3 I feel like I had to mention them, they've had such an impact on my life, and even though the anxiety can be seen as a negative thing, it's definitely had an impact on the way I am today. I'm glad to hear that your blog has been a helpful outlet too, it's pretty amazing how much blogging can help! Thank you so much! xx

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  7. This is so empowering. I also dropped out of uni before eventually going back, and then going back again to do a Masters, yet because of those decisions, I'm now still battling anxiety and feelings of inadequate self-worth, even though no one has ever made me feel like that, it's just myself. It's great how you've found all the positives in everything, even if they didn't start off that way. Love this!

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    1. Aww that's such a lovely thing to hear, thank you! Uni can definitely be a difficult challenge, but that's amazing that you went back to it! I'm the exact same, I'm always so harsh on myself but it's not because I've been made to feel that way by others, it's just the way I've treated myself. Thank you so much! xx

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  8. This is such a lovely post! It sounds like you have some great people around you too! I hope you've got a little inspiration back again because this was so nice to read. You've definitely got me thinking about what shaped me now too. Although I think I might need longer because I'm not too sure x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. Thank you Sophie! I definitely do, I feel very lucky <3 I think it's slowly coming back to me, I really enjoyed writing this post. It's definitely a tough thing to think about and reflect on! xx

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  9. This was such a lovely post Chloe. Anxiety and my blog (along with depression) would also featured on my list, they've become a part of the person I am today. Along with friends and family members, I think they definitely have an impact on how we change as people. I hope you find your inspiration again soon as I enjoy reading your posts.

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    1. Ahh thank you <3 We both have similar lists, but yeah definitely friends and family have a big impact on how we change as people! Thank you so much! xx

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  10. Oh gosh. Living with anxiety is the actual worst. I never realized how much it kept me from doing the things I wanted to do until recently.

    I’m glad you’ve gotten out of your shell and have learned some new things!

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  11. Such an interesting post you made here! Love it! I hope you have got some inspirations now!

    Xoxo Babita
    http://travelhues.com/

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  12. I love this post- thinking about what's shaped you is actually so interesting! My own uni experience and anxiety have definitely shaped me but whether thats for the better I'm not sure haha! My relationship has shaped me for the better too I think! It's great that you have such a great support system!
    Soph - https://sophhearts.com x

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    1. Thank you, it was really interesting thinking back my life and thinking about what things shaped me into the person I am today! That's very sweet about your relationship shaping you for the better, I'd agree that my boyfriend has had a good impact on my life too! xx

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  13. Love the photo of little Chloe 😍 so cute! I love learning more about my fellow bloggers. It sounds like you've really pushed your comfort zone at times to get to where you are. Huge congratulations on that, I know it isn't easy! Two things that have shaped me - my mum and dad instilling a 'work ethic' in me. Although at times I've worked too hard, I'm grateful that I'm seen as reliable and have had a good career. The other thing that shaped me was I was bullied at school. It still has some negative effects to this day but has also I think made me stronger as well 🙂

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    1. hehe thank you, I thought it went well with the post! Thank you so much, I feel like I definitely have pushed my comfort zone at times, I just need to continue to do so though! It's a great positive having supportive parents and being able to learn from them too. I'm glad you have gotten a positive out of the experience of being bullied, although it must have been very tough at the time, I'm glad you feel you are a stronger person <3 xx

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  14. First, let me just say that I think you're an amazing person! It's so clear that you are strong & a fighter. I so admire that about you! Keep going & remember not to let your struggles get you down! ♥

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    1. Awww thank you so much <3 You are so lovely! xx

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  15. Fist I have to say that I loved this post. I related to a lot of things: anxiety, leaving university...
    I know how these things affect us and acknowledging that you had these problems and managed to get past them is a big accomplishment. It is really encouraging for me considering that I`m finally doing what I really want in life and that in itself comes with anxiety.

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    1. Aw thank you! I'm super happy for you that you are now doing what you want to do in life, that's amazing! xx

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  16. It is interesting to see how different events shaped people. As soon as I read the title, I can definitely think of some events that shaped me to who I am today. It is great that your family supported you in your decision with university. Sometimes, moving out is an eye-opening experience for people. It is good that you've said yes to the right things that gave you a worthwhile adventure. Thank you for sharing all of these experiences :).

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

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    1. Yeah I agree, moving out really is an eye opening experience! Thank you <3 xx

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  17. I can fully relate to when you say about how therapeutic it is to write personal posts. That is genuinely my motivation! I follow exactly the same pattern: 1st get inspired by reading beautiful blogs (such as yours <3) and then write, just let it flow - it's pretty much what happens at my blog.

    Super interesting post!

    Ana C, www.adreamersland.com
    www.facebook.com/adreamersland

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    1. It's a great motivation, it;s great how helpful writing is! Aww thank you so much! xx

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  18. I'm glad to hear your loved ones have been supportive of you! My parents have been supportive of me too so I know they've had an impact on who I am today.

    Karalee
    Tales of Belle

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    1. I'm glad your parents have been supportive of you too <3 xx

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  19. This was such a lovely read! I totally agree with you about how blogging can be good for you mental health. It's the perfect outlet as well!

    www.sundaydahlias.com

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  20. Fantastic blog post Chloe keep it up x

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    Jack Deyes
    jackdeyes.com

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