Valentine's Day - What's it all about?

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Hey everyone, hope you're well I'm back today with a Valentine's Day post, seeing as it's this week (Thursday 14th) and I wanted to get into the loving spirit. I actually didn't know much about the background history of Valentine's Day so I thought I'd dive in and let you all know too - if you didn't already. 

However, this post isn't just for couples, I want to talk about how Valentine's Day can be a day for yourself too. Confused? Well read on! 



What is Valentine's Day anyway? 

As we know already, Valentine's Day or also known as St Valentine's Day is celebrated every single year on the 14th of February. It is well known now that people who want to show their affection to someone will often send a card, some flowers or chocolates - the traditional 'valentine' day gifts. 

However, this day comes from a famous saint called St Valentine. There are quite a few different stories about him but the most popular is that he was from Rome in the third century AD, and at the time Emperor Claudius II had banned marriage as he felt soldiers shouldn't be married but St Valentine didn't like this and felt it was unfair so he privately performed weddings for those that wanted to get married. Unfortunately, Valentine was caught and thrown into jail where he was sentenced to death. Whilst he was in prison, he actually fell in love with the jailer's daughter, and on the 14th of February when he was taken to be killed he sent the daughter a love letter and signed it 'from your Valentine.' 

Gradually St Valentine's name started to be used by everyone to express their feelings to those that they loved. 

So St Valentine seemed like a pretty romantic guy, and because of his act of bringing people together through marriage, we now use his name as a celebration of love and we celebrate on the day of his death. 

How do I feel about Valentine's Day? 




Valentine's Day is all about showing affection, and this doesn't have to be to a partner, you can show affection to all of your loved ones, may that be family or friends, and also to yourself. (and your pets too, why not!) 

I'll admit when I was a lot younger back when I was still at school I didn't really celebrate Valentine's Day, and even now or every year in my 20s I haven't been a massive fan of celebrating Valentine's Day or so I felt anyway. Even though I've had a boyfriend for almost 5 years too, it's not something we like to 'go big' on. 

However, I have sometimes spent it chilling with my boyfriend watching a film and ordering a takeaway - and to me perhaps I didn't feel at the time I was celebrating it, even though maybe I have been. I think it's because as a couple we've never done gifts (I have got a card some years though - not that I got a card back though lol), but we both don't tend to use gift giving as a way of showing each other love. 

We both actually had a go at taking part in a love languages quiz which the lovely girls from My Lifelines has written about: 5 Love Languages, what they are and how to find yours. You can find the link to the quiz in there too, we both got similar scores but the same answers of 'Quality Time' being our primary love language and 'Physical Touch' being our secondary love language. Which maybe why we don't do gifts for each other on days like Valentine's Day because we show our love differently by just spending time together instead, however, everyone's different and will have different love languages so I'd urge you to give the quiz a go! 

This Valentine's Day I think my plan is the same as always... get home from work, order a takeaway and watch a film! What are you up to? Let me know in the comments below! 

It doesn't have to be only for couples!



I'm sure back in the time just after St Valentine it may have just been a day for couples, or all about giving gifts and love letters to those you might want a future with, but it's totally different nowadays. We haven't 'lost' the idea of it either, there's still plenty of couples out there that celebrate Valentines day by doing something romantic, and I'm sure people still may get some anonymous cards from their secret valentine, but we're also a world of self-love now and that's fab! 

Call up your best girlfriends or guy friends and go out for a meal, just because it's stereo-typically a night where there might be a lot of couples out, why can't you go out with your friends too? Go all out, dress up fancy, get yourself some cocktails in and have a fabulous meal. 

You could do what I'm doing also, get your favourite takeaway ordered, get some chocolate treats and stick a film on. Have a cosy night in, either with friends, or just by yourself. I don't know about you, but I love being cosy in bed with loads of yummy food watching a film by myself - it's definitely a pretty happy moment for me. 

If you're a big fan of gifts, treat yo'self. Wanted a piece of clothing for so long, use this day as an 'excuse' (not that you need one of course), but buy that cute outfit you wanted! I have actually been wanting to buy some new clothes for sooo long, that I may do this too.

If you're someone who likes cooking, you could always follow a recipe of something that you've always wanted to have a go at. When I'm in the mood and not tired I love cooking, you get some delicious food out of it - probably a big reason to why I enjoy it! But I also find it quite relaxing cooking, I like to stick some music on, or have my laptop near me and I like to put something on in the background whilst cooking. You could have a go at cooking yourself a 3 course meal, that'd be pretty fun, although I think I'd struggle to do a 3 course meal myself.. I'd have mains and a pudding! 

Have the ultimate self-care evening. (Related Post: Self-care Pamper Day) Give yourself a mini spa evening, get the face masks out, run yourself a relaxing bubble bath, maybe have a glass of wine and do something you really enjoy - I usually like to put Netflix on and be lazy. 

Whatever you do this Valentine's Day, or if it's just like any other day for you, I hope you have a lovely Thursday! 

What do you think about Valentine's Day? Do you think it's changed over the years? 

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44 comments

  1. Hi Chloe, my wife and I are similar to yourselves in that a nice film and a takeaway are enough. As with a lot of things there seems to be a lot of pressure to get the right gift, make the biggest gesture etc. Love is love and it doesn’t matter how you show it or who you show it to! x

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    1. Hey! Ah yes, the thought of a film and a takeaway sounds like a very lovely Valentines to me! You're so right, we all show and feel love differently, at the end of the day love is what you make of it :) xx

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  2. I enjoyed this - the history was really interesting. This year is the first Valentine's we'll be spending where we actually see each other so we're planning to cook something nice and chill ��

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    1. Aw yay thank you! Ooooh that sounds lovely ❤️ xx

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  3. I love the story about St Valentines! I've never been one for celebrating it reallhy but this year my husband is away so I am going out for drinks with a girlfriend, we was due a meet up anyway!

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    1. He seemed to have been a very romantic guy! Aww that sounds really fun though, hope you have a lovely evening! xx

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  4. I love Valentines day and this is such a cute post! I didn't really know about the history of it so that was interesting! These are some really cute ideas of how to celebrate and I love that you're promoting showing affection in general rather than solely to a significant other! Have a lovely one!

    Soph - https://sophhearts.com x

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    1. Aw thank you! ❤️ It is quite interesting to learn about how the day even came about! Hope you have a lovely Valentines too :) xx

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  5. I love the history of Valentine’s Day! How sweet!
    This year my boyfriend and I bought our own tickets to 4 different comedy shows and that’s what we’re doing to celebrate. Instead of pointless gifts we are doing something fun for the memories.

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    1. It is quite sweet isn't it! I love that idea, imI always a big fan of experiences rather than gifts too! xx

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  6. Chloe, I love every single part of this post. I always love all of your posts, OMG! Like I wasn't already OBSESSED with VDay, now knowing the story behind it has made it worse!! (Or better?) And thank you for the lil shout out! I am glad you guys took the Love Languages quiz. How fun! Great suggestions for ways to celebrate even as a single birdie. Love love love!! <3

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    1. Aww yay glad you liked it! Ahaha I loved researching about the history for the day, it's quite sweet really! ❤️ You're welcome, loved your post too! xx

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  7. I love that you've included this from the perspective that it doesn't have to be about couples but celebrating all kinds of affection. I've never celebrated Valentine's when I've been in a relationship but I love the outlook of it being for friends etc too x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. I'm a big fan of celebrating love between family and friends too so it definitely shouldn't just be a day for couples! I hope you have a lovely one! xx

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  8. This is a nice post! I knew that the holiday was brought on a St. Valentine and heard that he was from Rome, but that was all we were ever told in grade school. So, thank you for the little history lesson!

    My dad usually gets my mom and I a card and candy. One year he got me a balloon and a fake rose. I almost started crying because I wasn't expecting that at all! One year, my sister and future brother-in-law got me a teddy bear that I named Roux. ♥

    I don't have any plans for Valentine's Day. Unfortunately, my mom has to work that day and my luck it'll probably rain the whole day, so I'll be hanging out in my room, watching movies too! :)

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    1. Aw you're welcome, glad you enjoyed the lil history lesson hehe! I love that your family gets you little presents, that's very sweet and it's a fab idea! Aww well having a movie day sounds pretty good to me xx

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  9. I love this post, Chloe! It's great you have included both couples and singles, the Valentine's Day hype can feel exclusive for just people in relationships at times. The story behind the day is really interesting, I have definitely learned something new today! A film and a takeaway sound like the perfect cosy evening. My sister and I have decided to have a girly film night, I'm even making us Valentine's cupcakes which I'm excited about! Thank you for sharing your suggestions, hope you have a lovely day! <3 xxx

    Bexa | www.hellobexa.com

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    1. Aw thank you, glad you enjoyed the post! Yes it definitely can feel like it should only be about couples, but it's definitely fab to celebrate it too with your friends and family! Glad you enjoyed my lil history lesson haha, sounds like you're going to have a lovely night! ❤️ xx

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  10. Love this and what a cute little story. I like how you’ve incorporated both for couples and singles as you don’t normally see it. I’m not one for celebrating Valentines but I love your ideas 💕

    Samantha | https://samanthajblogs.co.uk

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    1. Thank you! It is quite a sweet story isn't it ❤️ Absolutely, you don't have to be a couple to celebrate it! xx

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  11. It was really interesting to learn about the history of Valentine's Day & St Valentine, thanks for sharing!

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  12. Really sweet post and a different take on Valentine's Day post to read. My family and I celebrate Valentine's Day together for fun. We all buy each other chocolate, cards and flowers or teddy bears. I think Valentine's Day has evolved into being more about self-love, hanging with the gals and showering those you love with affection. Although this attitude should be done everyday, it's nice to do something a little extra every now and then <3

    Thanks for always posting compassionate content, really puts a smile on my face every time I read your posts :)

    Natonya | https://justnatonya.wordpress.com

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    1. Aw thank you! <3 That's such a cute tradition, I love it! And yeah I feel the same, Valentines Day is definitely a lot more than just couples celebrating now which is fab. Awww, that is so lovely, thank you so much, I'm so glad you like my posts! xx

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  13. Yess Chloe thank you for researching about this! This most definitely is not only restricted to couples and is open to self love too, of course!! I don't honestly observe any holiday in a strict manner in that I get super festive about things, but I feel that love should be shown to yourself and everyone every single day!! <3 thank you for sharing!

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    1. Hehe no worries!! I definitely agree, we should show love to ourselves and others daily, it's nice to have a day like this that isn't just about couples as much as it used to be!! xx

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  14. I didn't know the history of st valentine so found that really interesting, thank you! Hubby and I have never really done much for Valentine's, mainly as it's 4 days after my birthday so we usually have a few days of celebration for that! I also don't like how the prices of flowers and meals out always go up! Cosy night in sounds like a plan ��

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    1. It was quite fun looking into it! Ahh that's fun though, a good few days of celebrations sounds fab! Oh yeah, it is a bit silly how expensive flowers and chocolates and meals go up just because of the day :( xx

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  15. Lovely post Chloe, I really enjoyed reading about the history of St. Valentine's Day, that was a hesrtwarming story. I'm very much like you in that Valentine's Day is usually a movie night in, no gifts (although I have been given flowers in the past) and not a lot of fuss. I love how you included ideas for those that will be spending time with their friends or be by themselves as well.

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    1. Aww thank you! It is quite a lovely little story - apart from him being sentenced to death, but it's nice to see how romantic he was! Hope you had a lovely night in, to be fair, cosy nights in are my favourite thing to do no matter what they day! xx

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  16. This is such a lovely post Chloe, you're definitely right, Valentine's isn't just about couples and it's often nice to celebrate with your girlfriends too! A cosy night sounds perfect too! Imogen x www.imogenchloe.co.uk

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    1. Thank you <3 Yesss, always lovely to have some girl time!! xx

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  17. Emperor Claudius II said that young men did not allow their families to marry because they believed they were doing better military service. However, Saint Valentine was against the idea and marred young couples. When Administrator Claudius learned the truth, Saint Valentine was sentenced to death. Over the years, 14 February was celebrated in memory of the Saints.
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  18. This is very interesting, I really didn't know anything about this history of Valentine day. I love it....

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    1. Aw glad you found it interesting! I didn't know too much until I researched about it, it is quite interesting knowing how the day became Valentines Day! xx

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  19. It is interesting how Valentine's Day has been around for so long. YES on the fact that Valentine's Day can be celebrated, even without a partner. Glad you enjoyed your evening - keeping things simple is best! Love these ideas for speaking Valentine's Day. I know following a new recipe can be a fun adventure. For me, it feels like a heavily commercialized day. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

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    1. It is isn't it! I had no idea until I looked into it! Ahh thank you, yeah definitely, I'm a big fan of simple evenings - and no cooking haha. It is sad how much prices go up for flowers and things like that, which is why I never tend to buy gifts for that particular day! Thank you <3 xx

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  20. So interesting! I never knew the history of Valentines Day before this. Both myself and my partner never really celebrated Valentines Day until this year as we just saw it as another regular day. But I think, like you, we were celebrating it without realising! It's such a lovely thought as well to celebrate the love you have for friends and family :)

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    1. Glad you found it interesting! I didn't really know about the history of Valentine's Day before until I did a bit of research into it, but it's pretty cool finding out about it! I hope you had a lovely day with whatever you decided to do! :) xx

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  21. oh my i loved this post! i hope you had a great day <3

    jadieegosh

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