Why it's important to take a break sometimes.

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Hey everyone, hope you're all doing great and if not I hope things get better for you I wanted to write a post dedicated to taking a break, this is because I not so long ago decided to take a mini break away from my blog, I didn't interact as much on my social media and I did things that included watching films or tv programs on Netflix, chilling with family and friends, and doing other things that didn't include my online world - (as much, as I did still go on Twitter a little.)



Why did I take a break?

I remember being so annoyed at myself because I had a whole week off before I went to work and I knew I could have been so productive and used that week to my advantage and get things written and scheduled. (This was about the beginning of December.) This wasn't the case as I was feeling so stressed, I actually cried a lot and I didn't feel festive at all. My boyfriend was feeling mega stressed with work - and I feel like he was also feeling a bit stressed because of how I was too although he didn't mention it. My hamster Xavier was also very ill and it was a worrying time, it's funny how such small little animals can mean so much to you, but they live with you for a good amount of time and of course you want to do everything you can to make sure they're happy and healthy because it's your responsibility to do that.

Adding to that whole situation, me being an anxious mess, the thought of going to the vets by myself actually scared me but then the thought of not going to the vet was horrible, I couldn't leave him being ill. Thankfully, my boyfriend left work early and we both went together as I booked the latest possible appointment that day.

If you're wondering, Xavier is all good now! He had to go on antibiotics and pain relief for a week but he's now the happy little hamster he's always been and the issues have gone. 

At this time when I was feeling stressed, upset, worried, and just generally feeling down, my blog also made me feel worse. I started to panic because I wasn't putting in all my free time into it, I was barely posting anything, but I just didn't feel inspired to write. Also, linking that to the fact I had this whole week off with zero plans I felt even worse because I could be doing so much on my blog. That's when I knew that I needed a break, because once you start to see your blog as something that is stressing you out and no longer has the same level of enjoyment, then take a step back. 

Don't get me wrong, I love blogging, it's my absolute favourite thing to do - and I won't be stopping blogging any time soon - but taking a break is of course, okay to do. I blogged pretty much 3 times a week in October and November, and that's quite a lot for me, so perhaps when it got to December I felt a bit burnt out maybe? I still had/have plenty of ideas and things that I want to write about, but at that particular moment I had no interest in sitting and writing about all those ideas. I just wanted to be lazy and chill out - doesn't everyone want to sit back and not do much sometimes?

Another thought that I had was a little bit of panic, what about my blog? All the views that I got it up to every day, and all the interaction I had built up, was that going to lessen? The answer to that is, well, of course your views will most probably not be as much as you're used to seeing because you're not posting anything, and therefore you will have less interaction on your blog too... but should you worry about that? No. I knew that my blog will be here waiting for me and that all the bloggers I know and love and speak to all the time will welcome me back and nothing would have changed. - Except for me, I felt refreshed, and raring to go! All my ideas that I had I just got on my laptop and started to type away, it was pretty great.

Also, I know from my personal experience I'm talking about taking a break from my blog, but it doesn't just have to be blog-related. If you're really struggling at work, then take the time off for yourself to re-charge. Perhaps even a hobby that you do every week, like going to the gym for an example, is really starting to stress you out and just want to take some time out then sure, go for it, have a week off! Although from that example, you may find that going to the gym helps to de-stress you, but everyone's different and we all do different things to refresh and re-charge!


Why you should put yourself first: 

For some funny reason we always seem to put other things/or people before ourselves, I feel like it's just something we do - we're almost too polite to say no sometimes. How many of you are super kind to your friends (I mean, of course, who wouldn't be?) but then don't actually treat yourself with the same kindness. For an example, say your friend is feeling sad about something, you'll do all you can to make them feel happy again, or you'll let them know that you're there for them and if they need someone to talk to then you're happy to help. However, what do you do when you're feeling sad? Why don't you do all that you can to make yourself feel okay again, why don't you speak to your friends and say 'hey you know what, I could do with someone to talk to right now.' Why should we treat ourselves differently? I think it's all about getting into the mindset, if you think of it that way - then perhaps it's more easy for us to be kind to ourselves. Truthfully, I feel like it's always going to be a difficult one for us to get the grips of but it's definitely do-able.


I always express this to everyone I know, but it's so important to look after ourselves. For me personally I've always found it hard to know when to stop and take care of myself. A good example from my life is when I was so unwell mentally but I felt like I couldn't take time off work, what do you say when you call in sick? I wasn't physically sick, the thought of me calling in sick and saying that my mental health was really bad felt like a rubbish excuse. It really isn't. This was at the time where I forced myself to go to work and made myself physically unwell in the end, so when I did eventually have time off and call in sick - I was actually physically sick.

On a side note, I actually spoke to someone about this at my new job and she told me about how amazing they are to their employees regarding mental health, which immediately made me feel a lot better and actually if the time comes (which I'm sure I'll have a bad day or week ect), then I may feel less anxious to call in sick explaining that my mental health is bad. - I say 'may feel' as I'm still unsure if I could ever feel confident enough to do that. But at least I know they'll be okay with it. 

Obviously, if you have a partner or children then you may sometimes put yourself on the backseat to make sure they're okay. That's pretty normal to do, because you love them and you want them to be happy too, but I still think if you're feeling worse for wear, or you're just not feeling yourself then it's very important to give yourself those self-care days every so often.

What is a self-care day? 

I'm sure everyone has different 'routines' for self-care days. There's so many things you could do, and it doesn't have to be a whole day, it could just be a morning, an afternoon, or an evening. You could spend some time in your house and have a lazy day - perhaps lying in bed, watching your favourite program/film or reading a book is an ideal way of 'pampering' yourself. Or you might like to go out, go for a walk, go shopping - retail therapy as they call it, or go bowling or to the cinema, there's endless ideas that you can do just for you. Do what you love and enjoy, there's no right or wrong thing to do.

My typical self-care day:

I like to have an evening, so it would usually be a weekend. At the moment I actually have every Sunday evening as a self-care evening which I have been loving. So, for a usual Sunday evening self-care session, I'll do it after dinner, I'll run myself a bath with some bath salts or a bath bomb, whilst having a bath I usually have my laptop on my washing basket by the door facing me so I can lie in the bath watching something for an hour on Netflix. I then get changed into my pyjama's, I lie on my bed with a facemask on or an eyemask - depends which one I'm feeling at the time, or both! I'll then probably have a read of some blogs because I love doing that, and then get my lunch ready for Monday and that's that, I then go to bed feeling very relaxed and ready for the week ahead. I shall be doing this tonight (as it's Sunday now) and I am so looking forward to it. I'd recommend it to anyone if it's possible to have Sunday evenings as a nice ol' pamper session, especially if you have to go to work on the Monday.


I hope you enjoyed this little post (perhaps I shouldn't describe it as little as it's currently way over 1500 words oops). I wanted to make it slightly personal but also helpful and insightful to you who read it. I feel like one of my 'goals' for 2019 is to take care of myself more and treat myself with the same kindness that I would treat others.

What are you goals for 2019? Are you going to be concentrating on self-care this year? And what do you like to do on a self-care day?

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40 comments

  1. Sending you a big hug. It is very important to take a break when you need one. I'm glad that your hamster is feeling better. Mx

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  2. So important to put yourself first! I really enjoyed my little break over Christmas and it's taken me a while to get back into blogging but I'm finally getting back into a routine with it! I also tend to keep my Sunday's for self-care days, I've been lacking on those due to being so busy so I'm looking forward to having a chilled evening tonight! Lovely post, Chloe, thank you for sharing! x

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    1. Glad you enjoyed your break, I feel like Christmas is a good time to have a break and relax a bit! I love my Sunday self-care days, it makes it a bit more bearable that work is the next day aha. Thank you <3 xx

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  3. This is exactly what I was going through right after I finished my blogmas posts!! I felt like there was nothing for me to write BUT I NEED TO WRITE NO MATTER WHAT. It was so different from publishing a post every day to like ... NOT posting anything for a whole week or longer! It was so weird. I'm so glad that Xavier is well now, I'm still working on some super cute Xavier drawings for the season ^^ I also think it's great you got to talk to your company about mental health - it's a serious matter but I feel like many people don't think it is. Many would be quick to say, "get over it, just deal with it" or whatever. I could make up a bunch of things in my mind that they'd possibly tell me but it's great you went for it! It's kind of like what I just posted on my instagram today. It's been a bit rough and I need to start the year right with writing meaningful and high quality blog posts - not just anything! <3 Thank you for posting!

    Geraldine | https://geraldinetalks.com

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    1. I feel like maybe around Christmas is a time that everyone feels like they need a break! Although it's a good time to do it to be fair! I hope you're feeling a bit better about your blog now <3 OMG I'm so excited to see these drawings! I still need to get the one you showed me printed, I think I'll get that sorted this week!!! Yeah it definitely is a serious topic, I am glad that they're so open about it! I'm sure you will write some great blog posts <3 xx

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  4. I couldn't agree with this post more- its so important to put yourself first and take a break when you need one. I'm so glad your little hamster is doing okay now!

    Soph - https://sophhearts.com x

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    1. It really is! Aw thank you. yes he's such a happy lil guy now! xx

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  5. It is so important to take a break sometimes. I wish more people knew this. I see so many bloggers who refuse to take breaks now and then since they are too afraid to loose followers etc. We are all human. We need rest sometimes. What I realised is if I don't take regular breaks it affects my writing and my ability to think about content.

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    1. Yes definitely! I know, it is sad, but I suppose people really want to see their views and followers going up, but we should definitely take a break every so often <3 Yeah I think I'm the same, I feel less inspired so my writing isn't as good! xx

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  6. Taking a break is so important! I think we sometimes forget that blogging, although it's fab, isn't really down time! I know I'm guilty of working on my blog all weekend and then feeling like I've not had a break! Love the self care evening idea x

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    1. Yes definitely! I go to work all day and then I blog all evening and sometimes I think, I feel like I haven't had any down time at all. I'm the exact same! It's my favourite, love my self-care Sunday evenings! xx

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  7. I'm glad to hear Xavier is OK! Completely with you on this, it's so hard to keep on top of blogging and everything that comes with it, it's so much more than just writing a post!

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    1. Thank you! It really is, there's so much to it!! xx

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  8. Taking breaks when you feel like you need them is so important. It's far too easy to just push through and pretend everything is okay when really we're wearing ourselves to the ground and making our mental health even worse because of it. I gave myself some "time off" over Christmas. I still did little bits and bobs but I wasn't in work and blog mode every day. I played a lot of video games and watched the entire series of You. It was nice! And made a change too.

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

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    1. Yeah definitely, I have done that so many times, just pushed through it but it really does affect your mental health so much. I'm glad you had a nice break, I really enjoyed my Christmas break, it really made me feel refreshed and raring to go! xx

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  9. A great post and some great advice. Really glad to hear that your employer takes mental health seriously. There some great advice and info from @mhfaengland re mental health in the workplace - so important. I’m still working out my goals for 2019 to be honest but not getting too worried about it x

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    1. Thank you! I am very glad they're so open about it, it's good to see! I'll have to check that out! xx

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  10. this is such an important topic to speak on, and it was a really great read. we all need a break sometimes and we should be kind enough to allow ourselves to have one. I honestly like to take a bath every night before bed, just as like my me time for the day. for me it helps to do something for myself daily and then one night go all out on the self care depending on the week, maybe more than that. i don’t think you can ever have too much self care. your soul and skin will always thank you for taking time for yourself and indulging in a face mask and bubble bath xxx

    mich / simplymich.com

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    1. Thank you so much! Yes definitely, we should look after ourselves and do what our mind and body tells us! I love that idea, I very much enjoy my Sunday evening baths, it's so relaxing! <3 xx

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  11. Hello Chloe

    I feel relaxed after reading this, thanks. It might also have been the codeine I took 20 minutes ago for a slight headache, but either way I enjoyed this post!

    - Peter McDonnell

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  12. I loved this post! it is so important that we take time for ourselves to recharge. i purposely went out of town after christmas to visit my parents so i wouldn't feel compelled to work on anything while i was on vacation. i was so overworked from christmas (i work in a bakery and christmas is our busiest time) so i really needed some downtime and i came back home feeling so rejuvenated and recharged. it was just what i needed. my goal for this year is to schedule self care days for myself where i don't work on anything. we will see how that goes. i'm very type A personality and ADD so it's hard for me to take days off from life lol
    p.s. also shared this on my twitter :)

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    1. Aww thank you! I'm glad you took some time out to recharge, it is so important for us to have a break every so often. Yes I love that goal! You could always try having a an hour one evening at first to get used to it, I usually stick to Sunday evenings around 7ish until I go to bed! Thank you so much <3 xx

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  13. Great write. Loved reading it. Just a question about your hamster, do you play with him everyday?

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    1. Thank you! I do yeah! I know they need a good amount of exercise and I don't want him to get bored in his cage, although his cage is massive haha xx

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  14. I'm so glad you are feeling refreshed after your break Chloe! I agree, it is so important to take some time out when we are feeling tired/unmotivated/stressed instead of ignoring it. I took a couple of weeks at Christmas and it was so nice! I feel recharged and ready to go again. I love your self-care Sunday evenings, they sound perfect. Having a long bath and watching Netflix is my fave way to chill as well. Great post lovely and thank you for the important reminder to be kind to ourselves <3 xx

    Bexa | www.hellobexa.com

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    1. I feel like Christmas was a good time for a lot of us to take a little break <3 ahh yeah I love my self-care Sunday evenings, I look forward to it every week, super chilled! Thank you so much <3 xx

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  15. It's great that you're feeling rested after your break. I'm in serious need of a few days off but I think that's going to have to wait until next month now. I didn't really get much of a break at Christmas so I feel like it's overdue at this point. I love a little pamper evening with a face mask as a pick me up in between though. I usually pick Sundays too for some reason?! x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. I hope you get your rest days next month! Yeah I feel like Sunday evenings I'm usually at home and Monday's are always such a difficult day so I think for me having a pamper session Sunday evenings make me feel a lot less stressed about the next day! xx

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  16. I totally agree with you, great post!

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  17. This was such an inspiring post to read! I'm glad that you've found your way back to feeling a lot better. You're absolutely right when saying we all need a break sometimes, I should really learn how to do this myself sometimes. Self care should be a priority more often ❤

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    1. Aww thank you! Self care should definitely be a priority more <3 xx

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  18. I am sorry you went through that I can't even imagine how you must have felt. Everyone deffo needs to take more break more in life. Sending you lots of love! You can always speak to me if you need to

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    1. Thank you <3 I'm feeling better than I was which is good, aww thank you so much though!! xx

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  19. Oh no! I am so sorry Chloe. Rest is so important and I hope that you can get some more of that next month! Taking a break no matter what you do is essential. I think I can get so caught up in my work I forget to just breathe - I love reading your blog posts girl! You're amazing. This was a very inspiring post. xx

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    1. I've had a good rest and definitely feeling a lot better! <3 Aww thank you so much!!! xx

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  20. I'm so glad your hamster is ok😊 I agree with you, breaks are so necessary. I like how you said about it's a sign to take a break from your blog if it starts to stress you out. At one point last year, I was feeling so overwhelmed with my blog because I wanted to push out relevant and high value content on a regular basis but I was putting too much pressure on myself. You're right, the blog will always be waiting for you. It's important to take care of yourself first. I like the idea of a self-care day because everyone needs a day to do nothing 😁

    Natonya | https://justnatonya.wordpress.com

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    1. Thank youu <3 Ahh yes, definitely, it's so important to take a break when you start feeling stressed about your blog - because it's supposed to be something enjoyable and not a chore! I hope you're feeling a lot better now with your blog! I love a self-care day, it's my favourite! xx

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