What is Wellbeing?

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Hey everyone! Hope you're having a good week ♡ 

Today's post is all about 'well-being.' The reason I wanted to write this post is for a few reasons: 

I am a finalist in the UK Blog Awards in the 'Wellbeing' category - I found out Monday afternoon, I wasn't expecting an email at all, and then I was out and about on my lunch break, in the middle of Boots at the time when the email popped up on my phone. I couldn't believe it, I'm still in shock! I managed to get into the top 8 alongside some amazing bloggers because of everyone that voted for me and the judges score - how did that happen! I'm not writing this to brag or anything like that, but I deserve to celebrate and talk about it right? I'm so proud of my blog, and this has made me realise that I need to believe in myself more. Thank you for all the support you have given me, you are honestly all so special to me. 

A lot of my posts on my blog are to do with wellbeing and mental health - the main reason I decided to write about this subject is because I have suffered with anxiety all my life, and I've had some really bad times with it and so I wanted to share my story. A couple of reasons for this was because writing about it was really therapeutic for me and every time I write a blog post it still is - blogging has helped my mental health so much (related post: How blogging has helped my mental health). At the time when I decided to share my story I was just getting through a 'rough patch' let's say, and I didn't want anyone else to go through something like that or feel like they were alone therefore I started to write about it for all the world to see and hopefully inspire and encourage others to talk about it too. Talking about what I was going through was a big turning point for my mental health, it helped me so much and I am so thankful to all the loved ones in my life that were there to listen and guide me. From my experiences I know how great talking about your mental health is and that's why I encourage others - if they're ready - to talk about it too. It doesn't have to be in a blog, but even if it's just to a family member or a close friend, or even a stranger if you feel like you can't speak to someone you know about it. 

Finally, it's a super important topic and we should all look after our wellbeing. We are our own top priority, please look after yourself, not just physically, but mentally too. 



What is wellbeing? 

Starting with the basics, in the Oxford Dictionary, wellbeing is explained as: "The state of being comfortable, healthy, or happy." It's good to remember though that wellbeing isn't just a one-time thing every so often, of course being comfortable, healthy and happy in that moment is great, but it's also about how people feel about their sense of purpose, how happy are they about their life? It's all about how you cope with day-to-day life, do you cope with daily stresses from work for example or do they immediately get to you? Do you feel engaged with the world around you? 

It can be difficult to look after your wellbeing, especially if there's a lot of negative things going on in your life. However, even though it can be difficult, it's definitely not impossible. We're all different, our minds work at different paces, different things bother us, but there's a lot of positive things we can all do for our wellbeing. 

In simple terms 'wellbeing' is when we're feeling good about ourselves, our life, everything that's to do with you. 

Can you determine what might be affecting your wellbeing? 

This isn't always easy to do. Just a few days ago I tweeted about feeling sad and having no reason why. I was struggling to think what it was that was making me feel upset, and truthfully, that's pretty normal - or so I think anyway. We have those days where we don't feel super positive or you feel like there's something bugging you. Taking that example, I remember that night I went to bed and I didn't wake up until 9.45am the next morning - that's a very long lie-in for me! So, putting that all together in my head, I have a feeling I must have been pretty shattered, and being tired really affects our mood. 

There's plenty of things that can affect our wellbeing, it could be stress, loneliness, issues at work, issues at home, worries about money, lack of sleep the list could go on. If you're ever feeling down and you can or cannot pin point why that might be just tell yourself that you deserve to be happy

Only you can do something to make your wellbeing better, of course our loved ones and those around us can help us along the way, I'm sure you've had a friend, parent, sibling, partner ect, that has done something to cheer you up. But, like I mentioned at the beginning, wellbeing isn't just about that one afternoon of being cheered up - of course that's great and we should always treat ourselves to those fun days, it's about your whole life. I don't want that to sound daunting, and you won't be happy every single day of your life, you will have bad days, but it's also about how we get through them and how we feel afterwards. 

Ways you can help your wellbeing: 

This is only my advice, and as I said before, we are all different and different things make us feel positive. In light of that, I would love to know in the comments below what you love to do that makes you feel happy when you're feeling down? 

I explained this in the first paragraph or so, but I really feel like talking to others can really help. Do you have someone that you can talk to about most things? For me, I can talk to my boyfriend about anything, we often have long chats about mental health and how we're both feeling. Do you have a partner that you can talk to about it? Or a family member or a close friend? Even if you feel like you can't talk to anyone you know about your mental wellbeing then maybe try talking to someone you don't know. This could be someone like me, or a doctor, or a mental health forum, or even if you have to speak to a well-known mental health charity like Samaritans. There's so many people out there that will listen to you, trust me. 

You could also try and volunteer somewhere, sometimes doing something special that helps others can be really fulfilling, it can help give you a sense of purpose if you feel like you have lost yours, it can help you see things from a different perspective. You don't have to do it forever, it can be a short-term thing and you'll likely find that because it's such a fulfilling thing to do, it stays in your memories forever, and ultimately help with your mental wellbeing. 

I went to Cambodia for just under a month when I was 18 which was 6 ish years ago now, but to this day I never forget all the amazing things I got to do for some of the children over there. Obviously, I'm not saying to just go to another country and volunteer, but wherever you are in the world, there's so many amazing places you can volunteer at. 

Take time for yourself. I say this in probably all of my blog posts, but I don't care, because I want this to stick in your mind! Self-care and self-love is bloody brilliant. I know life is so busy, we don't often feel like we have the time to just do nothing, or do something that we like to do to chill, but trust me, you can make time. Even if it's just for an hour on one day in the week, use that time to do something you love to do to relax. I love to lie in bed, wrapped up warm, watching Netflix. It honestly transforms me for that hour or so, I feel content, even if it's just for that moment. However, if we continue to have these days where we take time for ourselves, you'll likely find that your mental wellbeing will be more positive. 

 Do some meditation or other relaxation methods. It can be difficult sometimes to settle our thoughts and to stop stressing about things. Why not bring in something that you can do once a day or once a week, where you feel relaxed and teach your mind to let go of all your thoughts. I've been using meditations method for so long now and honestly it's been so good for me. It's not something you can do in your first go, but if you have some mental health meditation apps they can be super helpful with techniques and teaching you how to meditate. I'm not at the stage where I can just meditate and take all my thoughts away, at the moment I use the breathing meditation method. This is where you breathe in and out whilst you're eyes a closed, but in your head you're saying when you're breathing out and when you're breathing in. Doing this stops you from thinking about anything else because you're concentrating on saying 'I'm breathing in, and I'm breathing out.' Do that for 10 minutes and the relaxing feeling is amazing. I guess it doesn't work for everyone, but it's worth giving it a go. 

Keep a notebook where you jot down how you're feeling and also jot down anything positive that happened that day. Writing down your moods daily and help track what it is that affects your wellbeing negatively - you might find that you have a pattern where there's something in particular that upsets you a lot. That's when you know you need to do something about that to feel better. The idea of writing things down that have made a positive impact on you every day is also a great way to see what it is about your life that makes you feel good. 

Look after your physical health. I'm sure you've heard this a lot, but your physical health can make a big impact on your mental health - and vice versa too. Make sure you're moving around, I know not everyone enjoys going to the gym or doing exercise routines, but even if it's just that you go for a walk, getting some fresh air is also amazing. Make sure you're well rested, sleep is ridiculously important. (related post: beauty sleep). We literally can't function properly if we don't get enough sleep. I'm sure you've all experienced not getting enough sleep and trying to get through work or school the next day and finding it extremely difficult. It can also have a negative affect on your mental wellbeing if you sleep too much. Eating healthy also helps, if we constantly eat food that's bad for us it can also affect our mental state negatively. I'm not saying don't eat anything bad, we most definitely deserve a treat every so often, hey, I had a Domino's tonight and I regret nothing. 

I know at this time of the year everyone talks about resolutions, but it's actually pretty good for us to set goals. I don't mean goals that are going to take a whole year to achieve though, even if you have a goal that's for the week ahead - for an example: I'm going to go for a long walk two times this week - and once you achieve that goal, celebrate, you succeeded, you did it. A lot of the time we focus on the bad things, or we get disappointed in ourselves because we didn't do something that we said we'd do, but what about the other things you did manage to do?? Don't get hung up on the things we are yet to achieve, think about all those other achievements, and the one's you haven't reached yet... you still have bags of time! Sometimes it can help to set yourself deadlines because in our head we know that we need to get something done by that date and you'll probably find that you'll get it done. Although don't set yourself that many deadlines that it stresses you out, only set however many goals you know you can achieve. 



I hope you enjoyed this post, I really enjoyed writing it and it made me feel happy and positive. This is what I mean by writing blog posts is incredibly therapeutic to me. I know that if you're not feeling yourself, that reading this isn't going to magically make you wellbeing amazing, but I hope it inspires you to try and do something positive, and perhaps start the journey to a happier wellbeing. 

Thank you for reading, and again, thank you for all the support - you're all amazing. 


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36 comments

  1. Huge congratulations for making the finals for the blog awards! I think people struggle with wellbeing because it's a combination of everything and people try to look for one specific smaller thing that could be causing them to feel a certain way. I definitely agree that sometimes we just have random sad days for no real reason! I find that when I'm feeling down going out for a run really helps me feel better and look at things more clearly. Great post!! And good luck with the awards!! x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. Thank you so much Sophie! It's definitely difficult, I often find it hard to find out sometimes what it is that's making me feel stressed! Doing exercise is a great way to help when we're feeling down. Thank you!! <3 xx

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  2. Oh my gosh! Congratulations on being in the finals!!! Blogging has helped me so much in my mental wellbeing too. I don't know how to describe it but it helps so much to write something down.

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    1. Thank you! <3 Blogging has been such a great help for me too, glad it's helped you too! xx

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  3. Congrats again on being a finalist Chloe,I hope you win!!! This was a great post and again it's something I easily overlook and often take for granted because I think I'm stronger and can handle more than what I realistically can. I didn't exactly make resolutions and to me they aren't set in stone, but they are more of a motivation for me to do something. Oh my goodness, when you were talking about waking up past 9am in the morning!!! I've been having that between late december to the first week of the new year where I would not wake up until like 10-11 am!! That's a plus for being unemployed eh? hahaha :) Because of all that stress I really became immunocompromised and got myself quite sick!
    It's such a mental struggle to keep thinking positive amidst a bunch of negativity but it really helps to constantly have these reminders and read them for the next time I'm being overwhelmed with a stressful situation!! <3

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    1. Thank you!!! It is something that can be easily overlooked, and omg yeah I definitely needed that long sleep for sure - but yeah that is a good bonus for being unemployed, it's a little sad when you get back to a job and realise you can't have those lie-ins very often anymore hahaha. Hope you're feeling better now <3 xx

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  4. Congratulations on reaching the blogger awards final, you have every right to be proud! For my wellbeing I find meditation really helpful. I've got a bit deeper into it over the last year and find it helpful in so many ways. Getting out and walking in the countryside is my other big go to. Or just near some trees if I can't get out of town!

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    1. Thank you Alison! I'm a big fan of meditation too, I never really looked into it until the end of last year and I'm so glad I did. Getting out and walking is also an amazing thing to do! xx

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  5. I'm definitely not looking after my well-being as well as I could, I know that. But I have found a few ways which really help me. Yoga and meditation is one of them and also gaming, which really helps me switch off. Congrats on the blog awards too!

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

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    1. It can be really difficult sometimes, things happen in life that can make us really struggle with our mental well-being. I'm glad yoga and meditation helps you though, I'm a big fan of meditation too! Gaming is also such a great way to switch off, definitely agree! Thank youu xx

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  6. Congrats on making it to the finalists, Chloe, you deserve it so much! It's amazing how much better you feel just by talking to someone, I always tend to bottle things up through fear of annoying them and it gets me down. Takes me to my tipping point to actually talk about things most times so I need to work on that. Some really great other tips as well, thanks for sharing Chloe! x

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    1. Thank you Hannah!!! Yeah definitely, that's how I used to be, I'd bottle things up because I'd worry it'll just annoy people but now I talk to my boyfriend about anything that's on my mind - so it's a very helpful thing to do. Thank you <3 xx

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  7. I actually really needed to hear this right now so thank you for some amazing tips. Congratulations on getting through to the next stage of the Blog Awards! I don't follow too many wellness bloggers but love yours so am off to vote for you!

    Soph - https://sophhearts.com x

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    1. Aww glad it could help <3 Thank you so much! xx

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  8. Congratulations on making it to the final! If there is one person who deserves to be there, it is definitely you. Your blog has helped so many people somehow, including me, even though I haven't been following you for a very long time yet. Congratulations ❤

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    1. Thank you! Aww that's so lovely to hear, I'm glad my blog has helped, thank you so much <3 xx

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  9. Congratulations on being a finalist in the Wellbeing category! It is pretty cool that you're amongst the top 8. I love that your posts are about mental health and wellness. It is important that we take care of ourselves however we can, as well as others. You give a positive reminder that going through these moods is a thing and there are ways to help yourself. You bring such a good point about happiness. Kind of bad but retail therapy helps me but within a reasonable amount. Alone time is valuable as well - great time to relax and everything. Thanks for sharing!!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

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    1. Thank you so much!! <3 I know how hard it can be to make yourself feel happy or okay again when horrible things happen, but there's definitely ways that we can help ourselves! Yeah I agree, retail therapy isn't always a bad thing, as long as you can stop spending when it gets too much haha. Thank you! xx

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  10. Huge congratulations on being a Wellbeing finalist, that is amazing Chloe! It is so well deserved, your posts are always so positive, uplifting and inspirational. These are fab suggestions - I definitely agree that tiredness can really impact our moods, sometimes life seems a bit brighter after a long sleep. Having treats to look forward to makes me feel better too, yay for Domino's pizza! Thank you for sharing and wishing you all the best with the awards, I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! <3 xx

    Bexa | www.hellobexa.com

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    1. Thank you so much!! <3 Oh yeah definitely, always love a good nap or a good nights sleep! Pizza is so good and sometimes you just need to treat yourself haha. Aw thank you!! xxx

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  11. Congratulations on getting through to the finals! That's absolutely amazing, you should be so proud of yourself xxx

    Tiffany x www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

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  12. Huge congratulations on being a finalist, well deserved and I'm rooting for you to win xx

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  13. Congratulations on being in the final as usual you've produced a wonderful read, I am rooting for you!!

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  14. Congratulations on making it through to the final - it is more than deserved. Your posts are so insightful and uplifting to read, and always so well thought out. I love this one as well. I've been thinking about possibly volunteering for a while and you're inspiring me to definitely look into it now. It's always so frustrating when you can't quite pin-point your mood, isn't it? Thanks for another great post!

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    1. Thank you so much <3 Volunteering is great, I hope you get the chance to do it :) Oh yeah definitely, I hate not knowing why I'm feeling down sometimes! Thank you xx

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  15. Congrats for making it to the final of the awards, that’s amazing! Sending all the good luck your way ☺️ I recieved one of those 1 line a day for 5 years diaries for Christmas, and it’s really helping me keep track of how I’m feeling each day. Especially how I only need to write a few sentences rather than a whole paragraph - it actually motivates me to do more, instead of putting me off. Also, I started doing one of those “a year in pixels” things in my bullet journal as well. Both of these things are great ways to track how your feeling and be conscious of your mental health every day, so we can all look after ourselves better!

    Beka | www.bekadaisies.com

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    1. Aw thank you so much!! I love having things like that where you can write things down and perhaps as well you can end up maybe finding a pattern or that there's something that triggers the bad days! xx

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  16. You are SO DESERVING of the wellbeing UK Blog Awards category. Congratulations! I am pulling for you!! January Blues have been getting to me so this post was perfectly timed. I love the idea of volunteering. I don't think about that in the case of my well-being, but every time I volunteer around my community it does make me feel SO GOOD. Your points are great. Sometimes it's hard to do anything when you are feeling down but if we can get moving and do one thing it usually really helps. Thanks for another great post, Chloe!!

    Abby <3
    mylifelines.co

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    1. Awww thank you so much Abby! <3 Definitely not a fan of the January Blues, it's hard to kick it sometimes! Volunteering is great, it makes you feel good and helps those around you so it's just so rewarding! Thank you!! xx

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  17. First off congratulations on being a finalist for the UK blog awards!
    I started my blog after I had my daughter & was experiencing postpartum depression. Blogging along with the support of my boyfriend & family helped me in the right direction.
    I agree with all of your ways to help your wellbeing especially with practicing self care & looking after your physical health.

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    1. Thank you!! Self care and looking after our physical health is so important, I'm glad you have such a supportive boyfriend and family <3 xx

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  18. I really enjoyed this post! Thank you for explaining what the word actually means too!

    Last year was the first time I'd be able to talk about my battle with depression on my blog. Honestly the only person I've talked to about it is my nana, but since she moved away I really took a turn for the worse - in my mind. I did tell her eventually, and she took me to the doctor to put me on antidepressants. I've started talking about it on my blog more and it has become very therapeutic and daunting at the same time, but it's nice to hear similar stories by other people, although I hate the fact that they're suffering as well.

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  19. I've said this before on Twitter, but I am extremely proud of you for making the finals! You are incredibly talented and I wish you nothing but the absolute best!!!!!

    You hit some really important points in this blog and I agree 100% with you. Health & wellbeing is something I am trying to focus more on this year. Nobody likes to feel at their lowest! Thanks for this post Chloe - I loved it. xx

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