Body Image and Self-Esteem.

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Hey everyone and welcome to another blog post! I hope you're well and I hope you have a lovely weekend ahead of you. Today I am writing a post about body image and self esteem. This is something that many of us think negatively about however body image and self-esteem starts in our mind and not in the mirror. Being positive about your body image and having a positive self-esteem is a massive part of our mental well-being. This is something that is common for all ages, genders, and cultures, we have this negative perception of our own body and appearance. How many of you get dressed for the day, look in the mirror and think, "I wish I could look a bit thinner" or "I wish I was more curvy" or you end up trying on a few outfits because you don't feel confident in those that you try on, I know I do! In fact last weekend I put a top on which showed my tummy a little and I didn't feel confident enough to go out in it and ended up getting changed! It seems so silly to think like that and even if you have your friends or loved ones saying 'you look great' it still doesn't seem to stick in your mind.

🙶Body confidence doesn't come from having the perfect body, it comes from accepting the one you've already got.🙷 - Oprah Winfrey.




Something that really plays on our mind and this society nowadays is the use of social media platforms - you'll see these 'perfect' looking models on Instagram, or you'll see pictures of people you're friends with on Facebook and think 'why can't I look as good as they do.'

Here's something that explains it so well and gives you examples of how you can help yourself.

If you truly accept and like the way you look and aren't trying to change your body to how you think it should look, you have a very healthy body image and positive self-esteem, and it's something we should all try to aim for. Obviously if you feel like you need to lose some weight or put on some weight to become healthier than of course there is nothing wrong with that, you do what feels best for you. If you get so stressed or obsessed in changing everything about you then you may need to stop and think why do you need to do that. If you start becoming too obsessive about your body image you can develop a body dysmorphic disorder which is an anxiety disorder related to body image. If you experience obsessive worries about one or more perceived flaws in your physical appearance and get to the point that you feel these flaws cannot be seen by anyone, or if you start to develop compulsive behaviours and routines such as using mirrors excessively, or even picking your skin because you worry so much about the way you look, then you should speak to a professional or reach out for support. Having this disorder can cause mental and emotional distress and have a massive impact on your day to day life - it can be closely linked to having an obsessive-compulsive disorder.

You can read a lot more about this here.

A healthy body image should be that you are recognising the individual qualities and strengths that make you feel good about yourself beyond weight, shape or appearance, and resisting the pressure to get that 'perfect' body that you may see online, in the media, or amongst people you know.

Tips on how to feel good about your body image and self esteem:


Stop judging yourself on a number. This could be anything from your weight, your BMI, your calorie intake, your dress size... we allow these numbers to determine how we feel on a day to day basis. What if you decided to focus on how you feel rather than how these numbers make you feel? Why not throw away your scales? Or even put them away so you can't see them, usually if you go into your bathroom and see your scales sitting there your mind urges you to weigh yourself. Try not to buy clothes based on what the label says, there's no point buying clothes that you have to squeeze into, but clothes that feel and fit you well.

Focus on your good bits. When you look into a mirror at yourself what do you usually do, criticise all the parts you don't like? Or do you point out the parts you love and compliment yourself? The majority of us will point out the parts we don't like but why? Next time you look at yourself in the mirror point out something you love about yourself - even if its your toes!

Beauty is more than what you look like. Beauty is your mind, your personality, your skills and so on. I bet if you asked your friends, your family or you partner to list what they like about you they'll say a lot more than just what you look like on the outside. Maybe you should try this, it might lead to some great revelations and new perspectives.

Learn about your body shape. Certain clothes and the way we decide to dress can really impact how we feel about ourselves. How many of you put on some matching underwear and feel really good about yourself? They may be under your clothes and maybe no one's going to see them but how does it make you feel? There's so many clothes that you can pick that suit your body shape no matter what shape it is! If you're struggling to find something that suits you then research into it, there's so much out there that can help, you could even pay for a session with a professional stylist and it will inspire you to try new things!

Take care of your body. It is often said, but eating healthy food is something we should all do, learn what food is good for you and how much is the right amount. You can still have some treats, don't think that you just have to eat salad for the rest of your life just to get to a stage your happy with. I get takeaways almost once a week or once a fortnight but in between I eat meals that are good for me!

My favourite self-care book: 


A book that I always pick up to read whenever I need some extra help with self-care is - The little book of Self Care, the tiny everyday habits that will transform your life, by Mel Noakes. This book is absolutely amazing and has been one of the best things to help me. When I was feeling so down and anxious my friend sent me this in the post and it's something that I constantly keep near me. It's got tons of great advice, tons of little self care activities, and it really helps you to think positively. It looks at your mind, your body and your life - I would recommend this book so much! Check it out here↓↓↓




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I could write so much about this subject but I'll leave it here otherwise it'll be an essay! I hope you enjoyed reading the post and that the advice helps you to learn to feel good about yourself! There's nothing better than thinking positively and having a good self-esteem. 

Tell me in the comments what's something that you love about yourself?
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28 comments

  1. From someone who has just started on their self care journey this post was a perfect read! I’m working really hard on trying to accept myself so to read something so encouraging and something that gives so much advice is great. Thank you!
    Lux
    london-lace.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Aw thank you :) I'm so pleased it's had a positive affect, little baby steps and I'm sure you'll get there! x

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  2. Man I REALLY love this post. Especially the part about not focusing on numbers. I'm mostly quite good with my body image, 2018 has been a year where I've become SO much more accepting of my body but I do really struggle with the number on the scales sometimes despite being happy with the way I look. I can't put my finger on why but I guess we all have our hang ups!
    Alice Xx

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    1. Thank you so much! I think not trying to focus on the numbers is a something we all struggle with but I'm so glad you're at the stage where you feel good about your body image, keep it up! :) xx

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  3. This is such a difficult subject for so many of us. I feel like positive body image is something we're all told we should have, but we're told it in a way that it should be instant, rather than something to constantly work on. I don't let the scale control me anymore, but it's still disheartening if the number (whichever number it is) isn't where you want it to be. A lot of the issues I have with my body image stem from being short which is so silly because I obviously couldn't change that even if I wanted to 'work on myself' x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. Yeah definitely - all the advice you read about, it is great but you have to keep at it and do it every day. Of course everyone will have bad days, that's pretty normal but as long as we can bring ourselves back to feeling good again. :) And yeah I get you, I'm a short person too but you've just gotta learn to love yourself! x

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  4. Love this post Chloe! I was really struggling last year with my body image and was so unhappy and have been trying to make positive changes this year to change what I can that I didn't like. We all need to learn to be kinder to ourselves ❤

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    1. I'm glad you're feeling better about yourself :) but definitely, we do need to learn to be kinder to ourselves! x

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  5. Love this piece! I used to obsess about my looks but actually moreso my weight. I would get upset if i saw the numbers rising and would work hard to reduce that (little did I know that muscle weighs more than fat 😂) but I'm glad I no longer feel that way about myself. I do acknowledge I'm not fit and I need to get in shape but I'm not obsessed about appearance anymore! Thanks for sharing 😘

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    1. Thank you, glad you liked the post :) and I'm glad you're feeling better about yourself! x

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  6. I feel like this idea of body image and body positivity gets so much deeper and more complex when you through gender identity on top of it. For those of us who don't identify strictly with one gender or another definitely struggle with feeling at home in our bodies or that they're even really "ours" in a sense.

    It can be really hard when you feel relatively masculine or androgynous but your body shape doesn't "match" up, so to speak. And it can lead to pretty severe depression...

    So in some cases, I'm all for changing up how your body looks in order to feel more at home in it. :)


    On The Cusp | https://on-th3-cusp.blogspot.com/

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    1. Yeah it definitely does - I could have written an essay amount of things for this post but it can be difficult for many. As long as you love yourself for you :) x

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  7. What I've started doing now is just embracing my flaws and imperfections. I've never had a huge love for my body, I've never really been body confident, but life is too short! I'm going to just love my body for the way it is! x

    Lucy | www.lucymary.co.uk

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    1. Exactly! Life is too short to worry about that all the time, I know it can be hard to get that thought into your mind but it's such a great way to be positive. So glad you feel good about yourself! x

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  8. Great post! The journey to self love and respect is a hard one in today's society. It's hard to stop and remember that they way people put themselves forth online is not the way that they look when they wake up in the morning. They are just like us. My best rule of thumb when I am feeling down on myself, is to try and conjure up the feeling I had last time I looked in the mirror when I looked my best. My favorite part of my face is my eyes.

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    1. Thank you! Yes I definitely agree, you see all these people who have their life online and you usually show yourself looking your best but if we all uploaded pictures of us all from the moment we wake up in the morning they'll look slightly different. That's a good way to keeping yourself feeling positive! x

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  9. Hey Chloe this was a super healthy post, I really like the solutions you mentioned to being more comfortable with yourself. It's important you take time to really treat yourself with love such as fueling your mind with positive self-talk and nutritious food for physical health. I like how you said to learn more about your shape if you don't like the way clothes fit, it does make the biggest difference. My favorite physical feature is my smile 😁

    Natonya | http://www.justnatonya.wordpress.com

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    1. Aw thank you so glad you enjoyed reading it! And yes most definitely it's good to be kind to yourself and keep that positivity! :) x

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  10. I loved reading this post! I’ve always struggled with my confidence and body image, however I’ve recently decided to start accepting my imperfections. This is a difficult subject for so many people, thank you for sharing! X

    Rebecca | www.rebeccalouised.wordpress.com

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    1. Thank you, glad you enjoyed reading it! I'm glad you're feeling better about yourself and accepting you for you! :) x

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  11. Such great advice! Self-care is really important. I have followed your blog and look forward to reading more of your posts :)
    Laura
    cornishmaidblog.com
    x

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    1. Aw thank you so much! We must always look after oursevles :) That's so lovely, I'm glad you like my blog! x

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  12. This is such a great post Chloe! I could not agree more that beauty is more than what you look like. I love your blog as you always post meaningful blogs about something that I really want to read :) xx

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    1. Thank you so much that means a lot! :) I'm glad you enjoyed reading this post! xx

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  13. Aw love this post! Such good content here! I love my dimples. I'm the only one in my family who has them - neither of my parents do - I inherited them from my grandmother! :)

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  14. I have such a negative body image and low self esteem in general that this was what I needed to read today. I thought I'd be much more accepting of myself now I'm in my thirties, but I'm not. It consumes too much of my thoughts and has done for many many years and it's time I stopped putting so much emphasis on it. Thanks for writing this ♥

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    1. I'm so glad it has helped, sometimes it takes us time to accept ourselves and feel positive about ourselves but its definitely doable! xx

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