Thursday, 26 July 2018

What would you tell your younger self?

Good evening, 


Hope you're well. I've been a bit absent lately due to major changes going on with me, the top two being a job change and moving out of my home town - so it's been a bit busy I guess you could say! It's emotional having to leave things behind that you're so used to and being away from people you've known forever but at the same time I'm excited for my new journey to begin! I always think if you don't leave your comfort zone and push yourself to do new things then you'll be stuck in the same place doing the same thing and that's no fun right? Life's for living, creating and learning new experiences. Anyway before I blabber on for far too long about deep things let's start this blog post!

So I sat here for a little bit thinking about what I could write my next post on and this idea popped into my head. If you think back to when you were a bit younger and maybe you were stressing about your school exams, or you thought you'd never be good enough at something, or you wanted to travel the world but thought its not possible, all these things that you've ever failed at but then tried it again and succeeded and no matter how much longer it took you to succeed at it, you still did it, and then you think back to the time that you failed and stressed for nothing?

I decided to write a post about what you would tell your younger self. Also instead of me just going on and on about what I would tell myself I thought I'd include everyone else's answers. So what I have done is asked around people I know for a little quote of what they would tell their younger self and I shall write them below. Names are only included with permission.

WHAT WOULD YOU TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF? 

"Please don't stress so much. Life gets hard and things don't always go the way you want them to but if you keep at it you will succeed and achieve anything you put your mind to." 
                                                                                                                    (Chloe)

"Make the most of the people in your life while they are around."
                                                                                                       (Sue)

"Worry less, don't be afraid to make mistakes and if you're passionate about something don't give up."
                                                                                                                                             (Adam)

"Work hard and think carefully about your love life, be sensible as well as in love."
                                                                                                                                  (Anonymous)

"It's going to be tough but it does get better, you have an amazing family that will support you and love you and you will find genuine friends who will be there for you! The best thing is that you'll find a guy who genuinely loves you for you and he'll change your life." 
                                                                        (Alyx)

"You're not being a burden, go to the doctors, they are there to help."
                                                                                                                    (Matt)

❥ "You'll be okay, life gets better and better, keep playing video games (turns out they don't rot your brain), get more tattoos, be more confident, you're better than you know. Put all you can into your art and studying, be open and compassionate. Keep pushing because you're doing okay. You might work in an office but its not as bad as you imagined. Plus you're getting married to a wonderful person and your journey through life will create some great friendships. Good things lie ahead, keep blooming flower boy." 
                                                                                                                              (Karl)

❥ "I would tell myself not to try and stick to friendships that you knew in your gut were never going to work out, that when you get older your going to be surrounded by the people who mean the most to you and to jump head first at the chances that you are offered because it definitely leads to exciting things."
                                                                                                                                                     (Anna)

"Enjoy yourself, life is too short."
                                                (Martin)

❥"You're embarrassing please stop before you get any older."
                                                                                                                        (Amy)

"You're not as fat as you think, wait five years."
                                                                                                  (Lee)

"Don't worry so much about trying to fit in, Trust your gut and instincts and know your worth. Don't worry about not taking the path everyone else is - it turns out great!"
                                                                                                                                                              (Kayleigh)

"Do well at school."
                                   (Darren)

"Do what you want and don't let anybody put you down and say you can't."
                                                                                                                                                          (Sarah)

"Don't waste time. Never leave what can be done today till tomorrow. Commit, dedicate time and effort to whatever it is you want to do instead of putting it off, because if you keep doing that you'll miss it."
                                                                                                                                                                       (Andy)

"Trust your instinct. Even the people you think should have your best interest at heart do not."
                                                                                                                                                                      (Kim)

"Don't let anyone dim your light." 
                                                                     (Kim)

"Always believe you can."
                                                   (Sue)

"Believe peoples actions and not their words."
                                                                                             (Kim)

"There can be more than one princess at the ball. You are no less than anyone here."
                                                                                                                                                                            (Kim)


I really enjoyed hearing everyone's thoughts and advice on what they'd tell their younger self and at the same time it's so uplifting and positive to see all these lovely comments. I just wanted to say a massive thank you to all those that have took part in this blog post you are all amazing. 🖤

For anyone reading this that might be going through a hard time at the moment I just want you to look at this wonderful list and know that it's going to be okay. It might take time and you might fail at something over and over again but you will get there I promise.

If there is anything you would like to add then please do comment below what you would tell your younger self. I've had some great comments come back from those that gave me these answers that said it made them feel positive and therapeutic even thinking about this question and I'm so glad, this is what I was hoping to achieve.

Hope you enjoyed reading this post and as always chat soon!

xx



p.s. Here's the younger me..

Friday, 13 July 2018

Setting yourself goals that are easily manageable.

Good afternoon! 

My new post today is about setting goals. It's always a good thing to set goals if you're feeling stressed and if you feel like goals are impossible to reach then you need to change the way you set your goals. 

For me I feel that setting goals is such a positive activity to do, if you have anything in mind that you would like to achieve then set that as your goal and take the steps you need to do to reach the goal.  Also having a goal, a wish, or a plan can make it more likely that you'll go out and achieve them. Here are some examples you can do to make sure you set realistic goals and can take the steps to achieve them. 



1. Write down your goals. If we list them on paper we are more likely to achieve them. If we think of goals rather than write them down we are probably going to forget them or personally for me they just don't seem as important and I just think, oh I can do that some other time. 

2. To add to writing down you goals it is also important to make sure the goal that is chosen is something reachable and has the right amount of details. For example you could have a goal of 'I need to save money' but you could add to it to make it more achievable by saying, 'I need to save £100 extra this month.' This means you have a main target to focus on and an end date, sometimes if you set a goal without a due date you might not achieve the goal because you can keep dragging it out for months and months. 

3. Make goals exciting. If you set a goal that's not that interesting then you might not complete it. It's always good as well to include a why into your goal. The reason behind a goal is just as important as the goal itself. So with my example earlier of saving £100 extra for this month, why do you need that extra money? Maybe your reasoning could be, oh I'm saving for a holiday or saving for a new car, if you make the reasoning quite an excitable one then achieving the goal will be a fun experience. 

- You could also add steps to achieve the goal that way it could make them even easier to complete if you follow your own steps that you have written down alongside your goal.

So they are just a few things to help you out in achieving your goals. I thought the next half of this post will be my goals that I want to achieve. There's quite a lot of goals I currently have but I will put in my top 3 goals, with due dates, and with reasons why. 


First goal: 
Move into my flat in Birmingham and get settled. Moving in date is the 28th July. We are currently at the stage of finishing off the paperwork, I've started to pack up my things as well so I've just got to finish that off, dismantle some furniture so I can take that with me, finish off the last bit of paperwork and then get everything moved! I'm about 40%  to the completion, once all the paperwork is done it'll take that to 50% as all I'll need to do then is move my stuff up there. 

Second goal: 
Get fit and healthy. Now this is a goal that a lot of people have but it's one of those goals that never have an end date, because once you're in a good place you don't just stop, you have to continue to maintain it. I started this week off with some intense exercising, I have been getting up every morning and doing an hour workout, I've been going out for walks, and I've been trying to not eat too unhealthy. I don't really eat too crazy with regards to unhealthy food because living at home at the moment we don't really have that much unhealthy food, so I guess you could say I'm kind of forcing myself to eat well. I'm hoping once I move out that the weekly shopping will be good and that we will stick to meals, it's never good when it gets to the evening and you don't have anything planned for dinner, I feel like it motivates me less to cook something. 

Third goal:
Get a job that I want. A lot of people have similar goals where they want the job they've 'dreamed' of. I want to stay within the IT industry, and at the moment I am doing a web developer course where I am learning a lot of programming languages - it's tricky I'm not going to lie, but I really enjoy it. Obviously I enjoy creating websites - one of the reasons I enjoy blogging so much, and I always feel so accomplished when I write up a code and it creates cool layouts, designs, and styles of a website. My due date for finishing my course is end of August, there's a lot of lectures, I am currently on lecture 76 and there is 306 - and some of the lectures are about five minutes long but once you do one section there is an end project you have to create which can take hours. My due date for my job is mid August, I'm hoping it'll be before then but that's the latest target. 


So there's some of my goals! I have many more but listing them all would be too much for you guys to read! What's your goals? Have a think now and write down a list, try and write them out how I have so they seem more reasonable and achievable. 

I hope you enjoyed this post, and as always, 

chat soon 

Thursday, 5 July 2018

Keeping A Healthy Mind

Good evening 😊

Hope you are well, today I will publish a small post on how to keep a healthy mind. This is so important with helping with your mental health, having a healthy positive mind will help with your well-being.

How to keep your mind healthy 

Having a balanced diet:

Firstly eating the right food. Of course you already know that eating healthy is good for your physical health but it also helps with your mental health and has a positive effect on your mind. It is suggested that a good diet can play a role in the development, management and prevention of several conditions including - depression, schizophrenia and alzheimer's disease - however this is not to say that it will control these conditions or cure them but helps with the management of these conditions. The Mental Health Foundation have reported that fewer than half of those who report a mental health problem consume less fresh fruit - but this could be because the mental health issues can cause a lack of interest in eating healthily. However that said there is little doubt eating a balanced diet will help with your well-being.

Examples of eating healthily include - eating foods that are antioxidants as they can help improve focus, problem solving, and memory. Fish - you've all probably heard about this before but fish is the ultimate brain food - eating fish a few times a week can help keep a healthy mind. Avocado - these have mono-saturated fat which increases blood flow and with a increased blood flow it helps keep a healthy brain. Whole grains, olive oil, onions (these have antioxidant enzymes that may help block damage to the blood-brain barrier, superfoods - these are the best foods to eat for the most nutritional punch, and I'm also going to add on breakfast. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, eating breakfast before you go off to school or work can really help the brain to become more mentally active for the day ahead.

As well as particular good food to eat, supplements are also very important. These include: Omega-3, B Vitamins, Water, Vitamin E, and Vitamin C to name a few. 

Keeping your mind active:

Is it important to keep your mind busy? Over the years there has been studies and speculation that keeping your mind busy can help with diseases such as Alzheimer's and dementia. An example of this is that it is suggested that doing crosswords and other brain-training activities that keep your mind active can be very helpful for your mental well-being. 

Other mental activities for your brain can include - playing games like scrabble, as the aim of the game is to create words with the letters you have it can be very stimulating. Reading is another example, you can read anything from books and magazines to the back of cereal boxes, reading keeps your mind pumping and you also learn new things at the same time. You could also watch a thought-provoking movie with films like that it can keep your mind pondering for a few days afterwards too. Video games can also be good at keeping your mind busy, when you play most games you are constantly working out what you need to do and it keeps your brain thinking. You could also be creative and start a new hobby, learning something new keeps your mind very busy, for example learning to play a new instrument.

Physical Exercise: 


Physical exercise keeps your body fit but also keeps your mind and mental well-being healthy. Exercise increases blood-flow and oxygenates the brain. There's a lot of examples you can do for this and it doesn't have to be too crazy.  Examples include gardening - mowing the lawn, planting, raking leaves etc, going swimming - this is quite a good one as it's very good for you and it's fun to do at the same time, go on a walk or a bike ride, dance, play some sports - tennis/golf/football/rugby etc. I always find after doing exercise I feel so happy, I find when I'm in a bad mood and decide to do some exercise I always feel good afterwards.

Challenge your brain: 

 Learning new things is a great way to keep your mind active and healthy. Even if you heard someone say a word you hadn't heard of before, look it up, or if you see a flower that you don't recognise - find out what it is. More examples include music, as I said previously learn a new instrument, learn how to read music, or research into some new music. Learn a new language, back when you were at school did you study a foreign language? Pick that up again. Other examples include, taking up art, playing some chess, making a switch in your career, travel somewhere you've always wanted to go, go back to university - always wanted to get a degree in something but hadn't gotten the chance when you left school? Go for it now, it's never too late.


Reducing Stress: 

I have written blog posts about reducing stress so if you would like more discussion and help then please have a look at my previous posts. Reducing stress can help keep your mind healthy, make sure when you are feeling stressed that you can relax yourself.

A few examples can be - bathing, having a soak in a hot bath can help, meditation can improve focus and stress, taking deep breaths can be a form of relaxation and it also oxygenates the body which keeps the brain healthy, relaxation exercises such as Yoga can help teach your body to feel calmer which will then reduce stress, having fun - take time away from work and responsibilities to just enjoy life as everyone needs a break, think positively and say yes to things, smile and laugh often not only will this help you but it will also affect those around you, get plenty of sleep - make sure you get enough sleep every night, and lastly get a pet -they can help with isolation and loneliness and help to reduce stress.

Stimulate your senses: 


When you take part in something that incorporates one or more of your senses it stimulates brain activity and helps to keep your mind sharp as well as strengthening your mental acuity.

Examples include - sculpting, you use your brain to be creative and design a sculpture but you are also using your hands to feel the clay.Aromatherapy which I have mentioned before, this can really help with stress levels and calm you down, it can also be as easy as having a nice smelling candle lit whilst you are doing something else such as reading or writing. Get a message - as well as having the stress and tension worked out they often include essential oils which gives you the added benefit of a pleasant scent. Try new food - trying new food uses a few of your senses, it uses your sense of taste, your smell and your sight. Gardening can also be very beneficial in stimulating your senses, you get the feel of the soil as you plant some flowers, you can hear the nature around you, you can taste herbs or veg/fruit you've planted, and you can also appreciate the colour and beauty of the flowers you have nurtured. Going to a concert - listening to music really helps to stimulate your brain.The list goes on and on but those are just a few examples.

Be Social: 


Being social helps reduce isolation and stress and stimulates the brain through shared learning experiences and emotional connections. There's so many ways nowadays to keep social, it doesn't have to be in person.

You can email or send a letter to a friend, I think it's always quite nice when you get a post card from a friend. You could join a club - it's a great way to make friends with people who have the same interests as you. You can always pick up the phone and have a chat to someone. Go out to dinner with friends or invite friends over for a dinner, go to a cooking class or a book group, play online games with some friends or just have an online chat, you can also find online discussion groups and find a topic you are interested in and chat to others who are also interested in the same topics as you.


There's so many ways to keep your mind healthy and a lot of them are so easy to do in your spare time. I hope this post has helped you or even given you some ideas of what you can do if you feel stressed or that your mind is not in a good place. I'm sure I'll write up another post about this as it's already gotten too long!

As always, chat soon.

Thought I'd add my cute lil cat on here ❤